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Planning for College When You
Live at Home
College
students who plan to attend college while living at home have no idea of how
to plan for college while living under their parent’s roof. For one thing,
they want their independence and yet still want to find a way to live under
their parent’s care. How can they do that and be free to make their own
decisions about everything from school schedules to frat parties?
Planning
for college can bring on a wide array of emotions and is very difficult for
college students to do when living with parents who feel like they need to
still put in their input on everything from curfew to what time it is best
for the student to take their classes. Students who choose to attend a
school close to home and stay under the watchful eye of their parents are
really limiting their freedom of choice. Furthermore, they seem to forget
that the college years are designed to begin adulthood without someone to
hold their hand.
Students
who choose to attend college and live at home due to financial hardships
should take a moment to reconsider their situation. For starters, if they
are staying at home in order to keep their parents from the burden of
tuition then they need to look at going to school on grants and financial
aid. If the student remains at home only to save money then they are missing
the opportunity of dorm life and so many other factors which are very
important for successful college life.
College
students who are open to college life on campus should try it before
choosing to remain at home and should take measures to pay for their own
tuition. In-state tuition isn’t that pricey for most state colleges and
universities and there are lots of funding options available for students
who want to attend and live on campus.
Talk to
your parents about the possibility of living on campus. If their reasons for
keeping you close to the nest is because they fear you lack maturity to face
campus life then try to remind them of the countless other teens who will
flood the college campuses across the world and see if they will set up some
kind of arrangement with you as long as you come home on the weekends. If
so, you will find that you will enjoy your college life a lot more even if
you do have to return home on the weekends.
If you are
needed at home to care for a sick parent or another child in the family,
then take the time to talk with your parents about when they think you will
be able to experience college campus life or make concessions with them to
let you try living on campus but still checking in daily at home if you are
needed there to help. The great thing about living at the moment is
that it is possible to use your computer and printer to work from home.
Indeed, with the exception of having to purchase
printer cartridges, there will be very little
expense.
College
students who live on campus in the dorms often find they are more active
within the student body and many students report they feel like they are
more part of the college community if they live on campus. It is important
for you to take the time to find out if you can live on campus and then if
you can make the arrangements, try out living in a dorm your first year.
Dorm life
enables you to meet friends you will have all of the days of your college
life and many of those friends will go with you throughout your life. These
will be the friends who are in your wedding and will be your friends who
will be at your first born child’s birthdays and so many other important
life events. So often after high school graduation, people part ways but not
with college classmates; they become lifelong friends.
If you do
end up and have to live at home when you start college, try to spend as much
time on the college campus as possible. Participate in study groups and try
to find ways to blend into the college community. Stay on campus for after
class activities as much as possible and use the library for your study
time. Take a full class load to keep you involved in classes on campus and
out of the house.
As a
college student, there’s nothing wrong with trying to keep your parents
close and involved with your choices but you still need to try to pick your
own class schedules including classes you want to take and times you think
will work best for you. Remember, what you do with your life for the rest of
your life often begins in college. Take the time to discover what you want
to do with the rest of your life. College is the first day of your journey
through the rest of your life. Considering what your parents want for you is
one thing but doing what you want for you is entirely different. Make the
decision to do what you want to do with your life.
The only
way you can possibly feel good about living at home and attending college is
if you still set some boundaries and keep your ideas strong. Once you face
college, you face your future and while it’s great if your dad wants you to
spend time in nursing school for RN training, ultimately you will be the one
who will get up and go to work everyday. If the sight of blood bothers you,
then nursing school is likely not for you.
Know what
you want. Pursue your dreams and go for it. Don’t worry about anyone else’s
goals for you and don’t let living at home become such interference that you
forget why you are pursuing a college degree in the first place. |